Something I despise

A thing in this existence that I will absolutely despise is that people ask what do you want to do for yourself and I answer candidly (like "getting put to sleep") to which I get told to pick something else. If living for oneself is a thing, then so is dying. What's the point of telling someone to do something for themselves and then getting upset when they express that being in eternal sleep is something they want for themselves? To be told to "pick something else" is invalidating.