Early Valentine's present upset me

My husband gave me "turn me on gummies" (basically high dose vitamin B6 and B12) this evening as an early Valentine's present. I know he means well but I can't help but feel hurt by this. I'm already on T for libido (which has had very minimal effect and I'm in month 5 of taking it, might stop it as I don't see the benefits). Every single conversation we have about sex ends in upset and I have told him so many times how broken I feel. he says he feels bad and that he cannot be mad at me but he doesn't feel loved when we aren't intimate. well the gummies feel like yet another reminder of what a failure of a wife I am. once again, I know he doesn't mean that but it doesn't tell me that he loves me. a massage voucher would tell me that he loves me. or a dinner for two without the kids. not yet another reminder of my body aging and not feeling sexual desire anymore. I reacted straight away with "so really this is a present for you, not me" and his response was "why do you have to react that way?" we are in therapy btw. sorry, I just needed somewhere to let it off my chest.